My favorite passage from Girl Dad

Rae Anne and I wrote Girl Dad more than a year ago. It released this past summer. I flipped through it this week and was, once again, struck at my adult daughter’s insights infused with wisdom, love, and a touch of enchanting grace.

Together we stumbled across a reader-friendly formula. I wrote ten brilliant chapters for dads on familiar and consequential topics. Then each chapter ends with Rae Anne adding her own commentary that complemented (and sometimes contradicted) what I had written. It turned out to be a respectful, valuable, and often amusing point-counterpoint.

Following is one of Rae’s “Reality Checks” from Chapter Nine, “Your Daughter and Her Time with You.”

Rae Anne’s Reality Check (from page 148)
You may not know this now, but you want your daughter to surpass you. You want her to do things you never imagined and learn things you never knew. You want her to achieve greatness because in a very real way, her achievements are your achievements. Keep this in mind for that day in the not-too-distant future when you ask for her help or when you turn to her for knowledge you don’t have.

When that happens, consider it a good day and a victory for fathers everywhere. When your little girl, to whom you once explained the concept of iodine when she asked you what that brown bottle of burning stuff was that you put on her scraped knees, explains to you what your blood tests mean because she’s halfway through medical school. When the little girl, whom you taught about the three branches of government, explains the geopolitical and social causes of the Vietnam War and how that affects the economic climate in Asia today. When the little girl who you taught to throw a softball explains to you the strategies of different bunt coverages or the intricacies of first-and-third situations that you never knew. When this day comes that she surpasses you, when you don’t know something, or when you have to ask a question, do not feel stupid or inadequate or allow your pride to be hurt. Instead, bask in the joy that your daughter climbed new heights and conquered new arenas outside the realm you gave her. You have successfully equipped her for the life she chose to lead. (And chances are, you still know a few more things than her.)

The point is—on this good day—your relationship will change to a relationship of peers as opposed to that of mentor and padawan. It’s an exciting time. The conversations no longer have to be stunted or muted; they can be passionate discussions between intellectual equals. This is the time when you and your daughter can become friends. So embrace your daughter’s growth. She may have something to teach, and you will have entered the golden years of time spent with each other.

Thanks again Rae Anne. Love you so much.

Of course, the book is available—including an audiobook read by the authors—wherever fabulous books are sold. Click here.

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