Generations ago, the boundaries were clear. He was the breadwinner. She was the homemaker.
For better and worse, those boundaries are not quite so clear anymore. Both sides have taken on and given up responsibilities that have blurred gender roles. The result is that many men and women have gotten to explore talents and abilities that previously may have gone untapped.
Personally, I like to think this turn of events has led to a new shared appreciation and respect for each other’s contributions to the home. In many cases, today’s marriages have a fresh sense of cooperation, communication, and partnership. But, what have we lost?
If both spouses are expected to do all things, then some things are going to get overlooked. Important things. Like spiritual leadership. Men, we need to do a better job in this area. (And I think you might agree!)
Before you start to panic this is going to turn into a lecture, let me assure you that the idea of being a pastor in your own home is not as complicated as it sounds.
The simple formula is this: Be the best Christian you can be. Let your family see that effort. And then help them do the same.
Examples?
Pray. Let your wife and kids see and hear you pray. Encourage them to pray.
Seek forgiveness when you mess up. Let your family see and hear you seek forgiveness when you mess up. Encourage them to seek forgiveness when they mess up. Give a sacrificial chunk of your income to the church and other Christ-honoring causes. Let your family see you do that. Challenge them to tithe as well.
This all works because when you DO and MODEL, the door opens for TEACHABLE MOMENTS. Want more examples?
Read the Bible. Sing praise songs. Volunteer. Honor your mother and father. Don’t curse. Tell the truth. Feed the hungry. Meet regularly in a small group community for Bible study. Seek wise Christian counsel when you face a tough challenge. Keep your pride in check. Flee sexual immorality. Tell others about Jesus.
Do. Model. Teach.
It’s not complicated. It’s also not easy. But, like so many aspects of a surrendered Christ-honoring life, the desire and struggle to do the right thing is pleasing to God.
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