Jay Payleitner Blog

Don't try to figure out a pattern to my blogging. There isn't one. 

Do. Model. Teach.

September 22, 2021

Generations ago, the boundaries were clear. He was the breadwinner. She was the homemaker.   In many ways, it’s a good thing those boundaries are not quite so clear anymore. Both […]

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Sneaky Back-to-School Night Idea

September 8, 2021

Here’s a sneaky reason not to miss Back-to-School Night. Sure, you’ve been there and done that. It can seem like the same old blah, blah, blah. But you really should […]

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Talked a while with all five of my kids in the last 48 hours

September 3, 2021

Here’s the context. Rita is out of town for a few days. Hanging out in Phoenix with a couple of old friends from high school. Me, I’m just trying to […]

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The Eight-Second Kiss

September 1, 2021

Hey Friends: (About one-third of the 52 chapters in my new book, The Newlywed Year, address issues common to the first year of marriage. Chapter titles include “Cutting the Apron […]

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Books. Talks. Lightbulb Moments.

August 25, 2021

Hey Friends: No surprise. Over the last 18 months, every one of my paid speaking gigs was cancelled. To jumpstart that part of my ministry, I put together a one-page […]

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Show Me The Father

August 4, 2021

Hey Friends, Let’s say we all sat in a big circle and started identifying the wide range of nasty stuff that has invaded our world in the last couple generations. […]

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Anticipatory Parenting

July 27, 2021

Hey Moms and Dads: I know it ain’t easy, but the goal is to stay one step ahead of what your kids need. I call it “anticipatory parenting.” Maybe this list […]

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The Unforgettable Needlepoint Metaphor

July 15, 2021

Right now, you and I really can’t have an eternal, omniscient perspective. That’s probably a good thing because seeing our entire future ahead of us would blow our minds. That’s also why, […]

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One Lucky Dude

June 15, 2021

Hey Friends: This pic made me laugh and I wanted to share it. That’s right. Rita and I have two granddaughters and six grandsons. And we were all together last weekend. My […]

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How to End Conversations

May 26, 2021

Most fathers expend much effort to launch conversations with their kids — especially teenagers. But perhaps even more important than launching conversations is finishing them wisely and well. You probably shouldn’t expect your son or daughter to punctuate every conversation […]

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