Jay Payleitner Blog

To Fathers of Boys: When you look at him, you see yourself. But in raw form. When he looks at you – if he’s around kindergarten age – he sees […]

Dear Husbands (and Wives too): One of my business cards is tucked into a corner of the mirror above Rita’s dresser in our bedroom. The printed side is facing the […]

Dear member of the human race: I know you. You have a sincere desire to play nice with all the other members of the human race. That’s an excellent goal. […]

Dear Moms and Dads: Have you taught your kids to make efficient use of their downtime? It’s a valuable life skill. In more ways than one. Some examples: *Instead of […]

Don’t be the dad who says, “Look what I did!” Instead, quietly do stuff that needs to be done so your wife and kids think I’m so glad I can count on Dad.  Opportunities […]

The core of my new book, Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate, is 21 different case studies of conflicts that were wonderfully resolved. Including hitting bottom in your marriage, business blunders, fist-fighting friends, honoring bridezillas, […]

At first glance, it seems like the Bible puts a significant emphasis on avoiding conflict. “Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. […]

On some occasion when you might consider strangling your teenager, please don’t. Because they might give you grandkids someday. Also remind yourself often that most teenagers are really just trying to […]

There are a ton of things you take for granted that would be empowering to your ten-year-old son or daughter. That includes stuff you learned so long ago that you […]

Consider yourself warned. Don’t miss it. Don’t go overboard. Find a nice middle ground. And for heaven’s sake get all shopping and ordering out of the way a week before […]