Jay Payleitner Blog

Don't try to figure out a pattern to my blogging. There isn't one. 

Teach Your Kids to Multitask

May 10, 2022

Dear Moms and Dads: Have you taught your kids to make efficient use of their downtime? It’s a valuable life skill. In more ways than one. Some examples: *Instead of […]

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Dad’s Duty of the Moment

April 19, 2022

Don’t be the dad who says, “Look what I did!” Instead, quietly do stuff that needs to be done so your wife and kids think I’m so glad I can count on Dad.  Opportunities […]

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Ben Franklin on Turning Enemies into Friends

April 5, 2022

The core of my new book, Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate, is 21 different case studies of conflicts that were wonderfully resolved. Including hitting bottom in your marriage, business blunders, fist-fighting friends, honoring bridezillas, […]

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Be a Fool for Christ.

April 1, 2022

At first glance, it seems like the Bible puts a significant emphasis on avoiding conflict. “Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. […]

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Don’t Strangle Your Teenager

March 8, 2022

On some occasion when you might consider strangling your teenager, please don’t. Because they might give you grandkids someday. Also remind yourself often that most teenagers are really just trying to […]

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A Gift for Your Ten Year Old

February 15, 2022

There are a ton of things you take for granted that would be empowering to your ten-year-old son or daughter. That includes stuff you learned so long ago that you […]

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Valentine Instructions for Dudes

February 3, 2022

Consider yourself warned. Don’t miss it. Don’t go overboard. Find a nice middle ground. And for heaven’s sake get all shopping and ordering out of the way a week before […]

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Carpe Annum

December 31, 2021

Dear fellow life sojourners: The above piece — begun decades ago and finished last night — seems more timely than ever. I coined the term “Carpe Annum” back in 1995. Its intended […]

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Without Deadlines, I Wouldn’t Write Anything

November 10, 2021

Dear Creative Friends: Having written more than two million published words, you may be surprised to hear that I could easily toss my MacBook Pro out the window and not […]

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Be a SuperMom

October 14, 2021

When our son, Randy, was in kindergarten, he told Rita he wanted to be Superman for Halloween. How could she say no to that? Early in October, the two of […]

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