Jay Payleitner Blog

Don't try to figure out a pattern to my blogging. There isn't one. 

132 Pound JV Champion (woo-hoo!)

September 28, 2022

My junior year of high school, I was captain of the junior varsity (JV) wrestling team. Believe me, that is not impressive. By junior year, the goal is to crack […]

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Your hands in worship: try this

September 20, 2022

Twice I’ve had the chance to see Christian comedian Tim Hawkins on stage. He has a spectacular bit about “hand-raising in church.” As only he can, Tim describes the many styles of worship including […]

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Harry Chapin, Cat Stevens, Mick + The Mechanics

September 9, 2022

For Dads and anyone who knows a Dad: Tuesday after her city council meeting, Rita and I were in a pizza joint and the background music caught my attention. It […]

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Would You Have Stayed?

August 28, 2022

Imagine Simon of Cyrene. In Jerusalem for Passover, his mind is back home. He has been gone for weeks, and surely his boys Alex and Rufus are up to their […]

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The Father/Son Staredown

July 17, 2022

To Fathers of Boys: When you look at him, you see yourself. But in raw form. When he looks at you – if he’s around kindergarten age – he sees […]

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July 15, 2022

Dear Husbands (and Wives too): One of my business cards is tucked into a corner of the mirror above Rita’s dresser in our bedroom. The printed side is facing the […]

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Conflict is inevitable. Being a jerk is optional.

June 7, 2022

Dear member of the human race: I know you. You have a sincere desire to play nice with all the other members of the human race. That’s an excellent goal. […]

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Teach Your Kids to Multitask

May 10, 2022

Dear Moms and Dads: Have you taught your kids to make efficient use of their downtime? It’s a valuable life skill. In more ways than one. Some examples: *Instead of […]

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Dad’s Duty of the Moment

April 19, 2022

Don’t be the dad who says, “Look what I did!” Instead, quietly do stuff that needs to be done so your wife and kids think I’m so glad I can count on Dad.  Opportunities […]

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Ben Franklin on Turning Enemies into Friends

April 5, 2022

The core of my new book, Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate, is 21 different case studies of conflicts that were wonderfully resolved. Including hitting bottom in your marriage, business blunders, fist-fighting friends, honoring bridezillas, […]

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