I recommend you set aside a few minutes and walk through this meditation as a couple. Ask yourself “What season of life are we in?”
Engaged to be wed and filled with hope and innocence. Newlyweds discovering each other. Young marrieds thinking you have all the answers. New parents overflowing with love but panicking about the future. The season of car pools, broken appliances, and lots of sitting in bleachers. You’re broke, then you have a few extra bucks, then broke again. Someone you love gets sick. A good friend moves away. Career challenges. You lose a job. A parent dies. Unexpected surgery. Trying to reason with teenagers. Some really fun vacations. Kids go off to college or the military. The empty nest. Adult kids move back home. First grandchild. Lots of grandkids. Slowing down. Caring for each other in gratitude and love.
For the record, It’s not until that final season you fully realize that your beloved was a gift from God who knew exactly what you needed and found your perfect match.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 describes the goal and gift of marriage: “Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil.”
That’s right. It may not always seem that way, but your spouse is your reward.
Wrapping up this idea: The secret to living happily through the seasons is to understand that his and her needs will change. Husbands and wives can then find adventure in each season as you rediscover each other. Each season is a new opportunity to celebrate and console. To give and receive. To carry each other. To love and be loved.
Ask yourself, in this current season, how can I serve my wife or husband? Equally important, how can I allow my husband or wife to serve me?
Navigating through all those seasons will lead a husband and wife to a depth of love, interconnectedness, and respect that mere newlyweds could not possibly understand.
(The above is an except from my book 52 Ways to Connect as a Couple. Which, by the way, makes a fabulous gift. Together, read one chapter a week and you’ll experience the best year yet!)